Dating

Date night

I think dating in marriage is so important. Matt and I have a tradition of date night each Wednesday. We definitely plan on continuing this tradition after we are married. We both get very busy with volunteering, happy hours, late work nights and social activities, but Wednesdays is reserved just for us. Mid-week works great for us because its a break in the middle of the work week, and usually all the cool restaurants are less busy. Even if we don’t go out its an evening spent together.

Date nights improve marriages, according to common sense and a comprehensive, quantitative study conducted by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. The study showed improvements for married couples who go on frequent dates across categories such as happiness, commitment, communication, parenthood stability, and community integration. The evidence also showed that married couples who devote time together at least once a week not only have lower divorce rates, but also increase the perceived quality of their marriage. That is enough evidence to start dating your spouse more!

An excerpt from ForYourMarriage.org  explains why dating is so important to your marriage. I would encourage you to check out the whole article. Dating is important at any phase of a relationship. It helps us connect and communicate and keep the spark alive!

Remember that initial feeling of falling in love? Dating is the way to keep that feeling alive and fall in love over and over again. many times the work “date” conjures up ideas of over-priced dinners and fancy activities. And I am here to say dating doesn’t have to be like that to still get the benefits of dating.

Top 10 Date Night ideas

If you are struggling with ideas here are our top 10 favorites:

  1. Concert – check smaller local venues for upcoming shows
  2. Learn Something New  – Take lessons – consider tennis, sailing, dancing, or golf
  3. Trendy restaurant – try that new place you have been dying to go, if we are tight on our budget we do drinks and apps
  4. Brewery or Winery – expand your palate and try out some new drinks
  5. Local activities – find out what is going on in your community, last date night we went to a lake party at the local marina
  6. Theme night – pick a move and make theme food / drinks (this is a good one to celebrate the end of a TV series binge)
  7. Travel planning – one of our favorite things to do is travel (who doesn’t love traveling?) planning and talking about trips makes a great date night
  8. Shopping – shop for new outfits together, especially if you have a big event coming up
  9. Order in – Ordering in is great, no one has to cook or clean
  10. Start a quest – Matt and I are currently on the hunt for the best pizza in Denver (so far we think Gimaldi’s) but any time we are looking for something to do, we can continue our quest.

At our engagement party. Stacy organized an adorable Date Night jar. The guests all gave us their favorite date night idea, and we always have that to pull from if need an idea.

Have Kiddos?

Of course having kids makes scheduling of date nights a little more difficult, but the benefits are sweeter. I don’t have kids, but I anticipate having alone time with Matt will be even more important when we do have kids.  We try to watch our nieces once a month, and I think family is very willing to help if you ask. You might also consider organizing a childcare swap with other couple.

 

Engagement Party

Cute engagement party decorations

I had the most beautiful engagement party, thrown by the amazing Stacy Ostermiller. We got engaged on new years eve, and we celebrated our engagement party a few weeks ago. It was a wonderful time filled with new memories and time with family. An engagement party is a great excuse to get all your loved ones together in a  casual and fun setting, it really doesn’t happen often enough, so if you are considering hosting one I would encourage you to! Check out the photos from our event 🙂

 

Journaling for Your Relationship

Journal for Your Relationship

Journaling is a powerful tool. Writing down emotions, thoughts, and reactions helps us gain perspective. It’s also a great way to keep records of important times. The Psych Journal, Huffington Post, and the University of Rochester (and more…) state that journaling has positive impacts on your emotional AND PHYSICAL well being (I said it, journaling can make you healthier). Weather you are single, breaking up, getting together, or working through it…journaling is for you.

Benefits of Journaling

  • Solve problems
  • Reduce anxiety / stress
  • Resolve problems with others
  • Boost memory and comprehension
  • Increase emotional intelligence (and IQ)
  • Improve focus
  • Record and achieve goals / objectives
  • Improve communication

Think about the impact these benefits could have on your relationship? Taking care of yourself is the number one way to be a better partner. For Serious! Women are naturally givers, and we need to learn to take time, and acknowledge our own needs. Sometimes we become frustrated with our partners for not supporting us, but the truth is often that we are not supporting ourselves! Take time for yourself, for your family. Below are some prompts that are relationship focused.

Relationship Journal Prompts

The best journaling is a stream of consciousness, but a blank piece of paper is overwhelming. Take these prompts as a starting point, and let your mind go where it wants to go and explore thoughts and feelings that come up.

Review your argument style
Think on a past argument with someone you loved. How did you feel, behave /react. What about the interaction are you proud of? What would you like to change? Write about it, and let your mind explore.
Cultivate Gratitude
Take a moment today to remind yourself all that you are thankful for. Think of the time and effort you partner has put in recently. What are ways to express gratitude?
Draw It Out
Literally sketch out a picture of the future. What comes up first? Sketch the picture you think you partner has in their head of the future.
Define Partnership
Describe your relationship / partnership right now. What ways do you work together? What needs for love are you missing?
Re-phrasing
Define one of the largest issues in your relationship. Then work on re-phrasing it to fit the model : “Me and you vs. the problem” as opposed to “the problem is me vs you”. What do you notice when you position yourself on the same team trying to solve the same problem?
3rd Party Perspective
Describe how you want to be seen in the eyes of your partner.
Letting Go
What are you holding on to right now? Even if you partner has not asked for your forgiveness, forgive. Write it out, express how it made you feel, what you believe their intention was, and that you are going to move on and forgive.
My journal generally looks like a stream of consciousness, ill switch topics, write the same thing over and over again, change colors, jot down a phone number, etc…. It is my most effective tool against my anxiety and keeping me sane (besides therapy). Which in turn, is my best strategy to being a good partner. I have a lot of really personal notes about my relationship, and I have used the prompts above to work through things in my own life. Sometimes, I will re-read my journal and see how far I have come on a certain topic, or be able to sum up things I have learned into definitive statements. Those are the best times!
If you love journaling, or use the prompts and have feedback please let me know! Love hearing from you!

XoXo,
Kristyn

Memorial Day Weekend Recap!

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“Land of the free, because of the brave.” So true – THANK YOU to all who serve and have served!🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸 (even thought thank you really isn’t enough…) I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend spent with family, friends, and food!! And even more, I hope everyone took a moment to MEMORIALIZE! 

We had great plans to go camping and boating, however those plans changed VERY last minute – like as we were packing to leave! One of the MILLIONS of reasons I LOVE my family – they are always game for whatever comes our way. Despite a change of plans, destination, etc. we were able to still pull off a fantastic weekend! 

We spent the weekend in Winter Park, CO – if you haven’t been – you need to check it out! An adventurous drive from the Denver area (roughly 2 hours) this little ski resort also offers fun in the summer! We rented a GORGEOUS house thru www.vrbo.com that fit the 6 adults, 3 kids, and our fur babies perfectly! Check it out Here

Saturday we arrived, set up and made a delicious Wildtree dinner (more info on that coming!) We also ventured out for a quick walk!

One of us was clearly not in the mood for pics!! Threenangers anybody?!

Sunday we went to the town, played at a cute little park and the toddlers went on their first fishing expedition! All 3 fish were caught, examined – determined “slimy” by said toddlers, and returned unharmed to their little pond.

Overall, a wonderful and memorable weekend!


Meet Matt

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Hey guys, Kristyn here. It occurred to me that I have never formally introduced Matt in the blog word. So everyone, meet Matt….

20151011_131344This guy is great! And, oh so handsome. He is already taken as far as life partners go, but if you are looking to develop your career in real estate or buy / sell a house, he is the guy for you.

Matt and I met in 2008 through Delta Sigma Pi, a co-ed professional fraternity, while we were in college at Colorado State University. We stayed in touch after graduation, getting together from time to time over real estate or DSP. In 2014, Matt asked me to a basketball game to thank me for a real estate referral, and the rest is history. Well… sorta, but that is another story.

1276259_10152184905918508_1861699052_oMatt is a very driven real estate professional. He graduated from CSU with a degree in real estate and an internship in commercial real estate under his belt. After college he went into residential real estate. Realizing success early on in his career, he moved into management and mentoring. Currently, he works as a real estate productivity coach. He works with a number of real estate agents helping to advance their career.

Meet Matt Besides for his professional drive, he can also be characterized as perceptive, loyal, responsible and hilariously funny. Matt can always tell when something is up, not just with me, but anyone. He has an uncanny ability to understand the core issues, and to talk people off of a ledge and back into a good place. I have witnessed it over and over again, his perception ability  is what makes him a great coach. He saw me through the toughest point of my life by being loyal. He was there for me, believed in me and kept all his promises to me.

Wedding WednesdayIf you have ever met Matt, you know his sense of humor is probably his most prevailing characteristic. His appreciation for humor, ability to produce laughs and overall silliness is delightful …most of the time 😉

I think his most attractive characteristic is his sense of responsibility. In a world full of “Peter Pan Syndrome” (Google it) he manages his future and dives into it. He provides for us and takes care of us, but still allows me my independence. He takes responsibility for his future and the outcome.

So, I think he is a pretty good guy.

 

Workout Wear

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If you haven’t been to Old Navy in awhile – which I hadn’t – and you need some cute workout gear – you’re missing out!!! Hurry on over!!! Seriously great, quality, cute pieces on sale – what more could you ask for??

1/4 Zip Raglan Pullover – $12.49

Light Support Seamless Sport Bra – $4.99 (similar to the one pictured)

Go Dry Cool Graphic Tank – $5.99 (although online it shows for $8)

Go Dry Compression Crops – $26.94

That makes an entire outfit (including layers) for about $50! Yes please!!! It looks like if you order online you can get an extra 20% off everything!! Score! 

Ready to head out and about!! Maybe even get a workout in today 😉

Happy Wednesday y’all!

Happy Auntie!

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Hey y’all! Kristyn here,

Triumphs and Tantrums is a blog about having a happy life! So we like to share things that make us happy. What could be better than spending some time with my soon to be nieces? I can’t really think of anything that makes me happier. How cute are these precious girls!?

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Sloane loves waving!

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Regan jumping on her trampoline!

 

I’m so excited to marry their uncle, so I can officially call them family. I already consider theses little girls family and love them both so much. Stacy is such a great mom (and blog partner!). I couldn’t ask for a better sister in law.

Ahhh… my heart is overflowing with excitement and love writing this!

Regan is at such an inquisitive stage! 3 is defiantly fun 🙂 .  Sloane is always on the move, following in big sisters footsteps. Her Nuby sippy cup can keep up with her, and lets her have a big kid cup, just like sissy.

Hope you enjoyed these photos of my nieces as much as I love sharing them.

Take care,

Kristyn

My “Why”

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For my Wedding Wednesday post this week I want to share a little bit of personal story. My reason why I am getting married, the reason I get up in the morning and the reason I love this man. Wedding Wednesday

He doesn’t always understand me, he may not know the perfect thing to say when I am upset, and he can eat whatever he wants and not get fat. But he cares, and he puts a lot of effort into making a difference in my life and the lives of others. He makes life more enjoyable. Together, all the good things are multiplied and the bad things are divided.

The thing is, and reason I titled this Wedding Wednesday post “My Why”, is because he believes in me. When he believes in me, it gives me a reason to believe in myself, and makes so much more possible.

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We are getting married because he pushes me to the best version of myself, and that is exactly what I want to be. He encourages me  every day with his fun loving attitude and wonderful sense of humor. And I love him because he is a person who inspires me.

I would love to hear a little of your store – tell me why you chose to love each day 🙂

XoXo,

Kristyn

Furry Scurry

Furry Scurry

Denver is very dog friendly. Dogs are allowed at many restaurants, bars and shops. There are dog parks in most communities, and you will likely meet off leash dogs on the trails. So, it makes perfect sense that Denver would hold the largest dog walk in the US. This was Heidi‘s 3rd run in the furry scurry. Everyone is surprised just how far she walks. Besides for the occasional obstacle, she enjoyed walking the entire 5k. This was Franklin‘s debut appearance at the furry scurry. He was a little unsure at first, but quickly started having fun and loved the walk! They were accompanied by their aunt (aunt?? … when you put dogs in your family tree it gets pretty confusing) Laci, my parents dog.

If you live in Denver and have a furry family like us, you might want to check out these resources:

  1. The Watering Bowl – a dog friendly bar
  2. Denver Dumb Friends Events – Happy hours, trail walks, and meet ups
  3. Bringfido.com – a website that shows dog friendly venues

Check out our photos from the furry scurry 2016.

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